Your Result: The Overgiver
The Overgiver Pattern at This Stage of Leadership
With a strong Overgiver pattern, you naturally lead with care, responsibility, and a deep commitment to others, whether that’s your team, your organisation, your family, or your community.
Supporting others feels instinctive.
You’re often the one people rely on, trust, and turn to.
From the outside, this looks like strength, competence, and generosity.
From the inside, it can feel quietly exhausting.
At this stage of your leadership journey, the Overgiver pattern often shows up as:
- Carrying responsibility that doesn’t fully belong to you
- Stepping in to ensure outcomes rather than trusting others to hold them
- Struggling to say no, even when something stretches you beyond capacity
- Feeling unappreciated or taken for granted, while still giving more
This isn’t because you lack boundaries or confidence.
It’s because this pattern once served you very well.
Why This Pattern Helped You Succeed
Earlier in your life and career, over-giving likely contributed to your success.
Being dependable, conscientious, and willing to go the extra mile helped you:
- Build trust and credibility
- Be seen as capable and reliable
- Progress into more senior roles
Over-responsibility and over-caring weren’t weaknesses; they were adaptive strengths.
But as leadership complexity increases, the very pattern that once propelled you forward can begin to limit your impact, not through failure but through overextension.
Why This Pattern Intensifies Now
For many senior women leaders, the Overgiver pattern becomes more pronounced during times of transition:
- When expectations increase without a corresponding increase in authority or support
- When values begin to shift and old definitions of success no longer fit
- When the cost of carrying everything becomes harder to ignore
This is not a sign that something is “wrong.”
It’s a signal that your leadership is evolving.
At this level, leadership is no longer about holding everything together. It’s about shaping, influencing, and trusting.
The Quiet Cost of Over-Giving
When the Overgiver pattern runs unchecked, it can lead to:
- Chronic over-responsibility and decision fatigue
- Difficulty setting or holding boundaries
- Avoidance of difficult conversations to keep the peace
- A sense of being indispensable, yet not fully fulfilled
- Quiet resentment, depletion, or loss of connection to your own needs
Many women with this pattern also notice an underlying belief that:
- Their value comes from what they do for others
- It feels safer to give than it is to receive
- Being needed feels more secure than being fully seen
Again, these are not flaws.
They are learned survival strategies that no longer belong at this level of leadership.
The Invitation: Evolving How You Lead
The work here isn’t about giving less or caring less.
It’s about leading differently.
This phase of your career invites you to:
- Redefine responsibility at senior levels
- Shift from rescuing to empowering
- Set boundaries that protect your energy and authority
- Lead with presence, clarity, and calm confidence
- Allow support, reciprocity, and spaciousness back into your leadership
When this balance is restored, your natural generosity becomes magnetic rather than draining.
The Leadership Gift Beneath the Overgiver
Beneath this pattern is a profound leadership gift.
You are here to lead with:
- Heart and authority
- Compassion and discernment
- Strength rooted in self-trust rather than self-sacrifice
When you honour your own needs as deeply as you honour others’, your leadership expands. Not through effort, but through alignment.
Patterns like the Overgiver rarely shift through insight alone. They are often rooted in subconscious beliefs about worth, safety, and success and require space, support, and intentional practice to evolve.
Leadership Reimagined™ has been created for senior women leaders navigating this kind of leadership crossroads. Not to take away their strengths, but to help them lead differently at the next level.
If this result resonates, great! You’ll be introduced to this work over the coming days. Keep your eyes out for your emails.
But the thing is, your Primary Saboteur is only one piece of the puzzle. There are 5 Success Saboteur Archetypes™ stopping you from unlocking the Ultimate Uplevel. Knowing and working on all 5 is essential to upleveling your beliefs, releasing your deepest fears and unlocking your maximum potential.
Here is a short breakdown of the other 4 Success Saboteur Archetypes blocking you (remember you have all 5 in you!)
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