Your Result: The Overgiver
Overview of the ‘Overgiver’ Success Saboteur Archetype™
With a strong ‘Overgiver’, you have a deep desire to take care of others and go above and beyond for them (possibly even rescue them), whether that is your clients, family, or friends.
Helping others feels like part of your life’s calling. Whilst this is an admirable quality to have, it is often at a cost to yourself.
You may struggle to say ‘no’ even when something adds extra stress and strain to you, and this leads to underlying resentment and/or feelings of being taken advantage of.
Deep down, you do not love or value yourself enough to reach the limitless success you are truly capable of.
2 Key Presentations of this saboteur in business:
Over-responsibility: Feeling accountable for everyone and everything, taking on too much to ensure others succeed, even when it drains your own energy or well-being.
Over-caring as safety: Putting others’ needs or emotions before your own to maintain harmony or avoid conflict, even when it means silencing your own truth.
Overgiver Success Saboteur Beliefs:
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Love and acceptance come from what I do for others, not from who I am.
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If I disappoint others, they will withdraw their approval or respect.
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It feels safer to focus on others’ needs than to voice my own.
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I must hold everything and everyone together because that’s what makes me valuable.
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It’s selfish to prioritise myself when others need me.
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If I stop over-giving, things will fall apart, or people will leave.
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No matter how much I give, it never seems to come back in the same amount.
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I feel responsible for rescuing, fixing, or supporting others, even when it costs me to do so.
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It feels safer to give than to receive.
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If I let others see my struggles or ask for support, I might be judged or lose credibility.
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Deep down, I worry that I’m not noticed unless I’m needed.
Overgiver Success Saboteur Feelings:
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You can feel taken for granted or under-appreciated.
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You quietly question whether you’re ever ‘enough’, ie, smart enough, capable enough, successful enough, despite what others see in you.
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You feel uncomfortable expressing your own needs or limits.
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You worry that saying no or stepping back might disappoint others.
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You feel most valued when you’re giving, helping, or fixing.
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You carry a deep sense of responsibility for everyone and everything around you.
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You fear that if you stop giving or let go of control, things will fall apart.
How the Overgiver Success Saboteur shows up in self, personal relationships, and in your career:
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You consistently prioritise the needs of others ahead of your own.
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You find it hard to set or uphold boundaries.
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You seek approval or permission from others (especially those in authority) instead of trusting your own judgment and intuition.
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You measure your worth by how much you do, give, or achieve for others.
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You overextend yourself to meet expectations.
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You avoid difficult conversations or feedback to maintain harmony.
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You often find yourself in workplaces or relationships where you give far more than you receive.
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You take on a caretaking role with your team, over-supporting or stepping in to ‘rescue’ them.
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You find it hard to hold others to account or address underperformance.
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You tend to compare yourself to others.
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You follow the path that feels expected or acceptable, rather than the one that reflects your deeper purpose.
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At times, you may try to soothe the imbalance through comfort behaviours like overworking, overspending, emotional eating, or over-caring in relationships.
Origin of Overgiver Wound
The ‘Overgiver’ Archetype gets activated as a survival strategy as a child when you believed or felt that you were not lovable or enough unconditionally. This can be as a result of the expectations of people around you (especially parents), bullying, or expectations you placed on yourself to be different or perfect to feel like you were loved, or that you belonged, or that you weren't safe to just be you. As a result, you try to gain love, safety, and acceptance through over-giving to others and struggle to have healthy boundaries in life and at work.
Your Biggest Gift Hiding Behind It: The Gift of Leadership
The ‘Overgiver’ Archetype gets activated as a survival strategy as a child when you believed or felt that you were not lovable or enough unconditionally. This can be as a result of the expectations of people around you (especially parents), bullying, or expectations you placed on yourself to be different or perfect to feel like you were loved, or that you belonged, or that you weren't safe to just be you. As a result, you try to gain love, safety, and acceptance through over-giving to others and struggle to have healthy boundaries in life and at work.
Next steps to transform this:
Mindset work alone isn’t enough. To truly transform the Overgiver pattern, you need to uncover and heal the root wound that drives it and imprint unconditional self-love through every layer of your being: Mind, Heart, Soul, Energy, and Action.
Unconditional self-love means learning to value and care for yourself without conditions attached. To receive as fully as you give. When this balance is restored, life begins to flow with more ease, fulfilment, and grace, and leadership becomes an authentic expression of who you are, guided by presence rather than pressure.
This deep inner work naturally creates powerful shifts, such as:
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Feeling calm, centred, and confident.
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Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries with colleagues, team members, and loved ones.
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Experiencing greater balance and spaciousness in your days.
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Letting go of comparison and competition.
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Living and leading in alignment with your own natural rhythms.
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Leading with generosity from overflow.
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Attracting opportunities, support, and success with ease.
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Stepping fully into your next level of leadership.
But the thing is, your Primary Saboteur is only one piece of the puzzle. There are 5 Success Saboteur Archetypes™ stopping you from unlocking the Ultimate Uplevel. Knowing and working on all 5 is essential to upleveling your beliefs, releasing your deepest fears and unlocking your maximum potential.
Here is a short breakdown of the other 4 Success Saboteur Archetypes blocking you (remember you have all 5 in you!)
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